Karma in relationships
May 28, 2024 16:29:36 GMT
Post by Stella on May 28, 2024 16:29:36 GMT
Thinking back to when I was in relationships, when I was upset or had issues with the other person in the relationship I realized that it was on me, not them. Maybe this was to do with my training or life experiences, but I understood that perception led to conception, and anger would lead to an escalation of whatever issue I was upset with. Only very rarely would I allow myself to get angry, which I'm told was like a minute long firework display. But usually when I was upset I'd become silent and somewhat distant, paying attention to what was happening and trying to put my feelings into words.
I know this is not typical in our modern culture where all too often it's based on Ego and moral reasoning and where a conflict often arises out of I need this, I expected that, you didn't do this, you did that, this is your fault, you're to blame, and so on. You see all too often in relationships you can slip back into individual mode and come out of the shared awareness and out of relationship. So you come back to separateness and Ego where you have needs, desires, expectations and the other person is the object or subject who is expected to meet the expectation or fulfill the need.
This is common because life occurs in cycles and patterns, and often the relationship shifts or something happens in life, and often when you both come back into relationship someone has unresolved trauma or old karma which hasn't been digested or run off, so one or the other partner cannot come back into relationship and unity until such an issue is resolved.
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I know this is not typical in our modern culture where all too often it's based on Ego and moral reasoning and where a conflict often arises out of I need this, I expected that, you didn't do this, you did that, this is your fault, you're to blame, and so on. You see all too often in relationships you can slip back into individual mode and come out of the shared awareness and out of relationship. So you come back to separateness and Ego where you have needs, desires, expectations and the other person is the object or subject who is expected to meet the expectation or fulfill the need.
This is common because life occurs in cycles and patterns, and often the relationship shifts or something happens in life, and often when you both come back into relationship someone has unresolved trauma or old karma which hasn't been digested or run off, so one or the other partner cannot come back into relationship and unity until such an issue is resolved.
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