The key to silencing voices in your head
May 28, 2024 20:31:16 GMT
Post by Stella on May 28, 2024 20:31:16 GMT
It cannot be denied that the Ego serves a useful purpose in society and in life, in that it gives us all an identity and a frame of reference for other people to get to know us as individual human beings. Language is the central human reference point for life and existence, and we humans are adept at using imagery, creating myths, turning ideas into concepts, and using words to verbalize the many different sensations, feelings and emotions we have in life.
But it also makes words powerful, extremely powerful.
But there's a serious downside to the Ego. It's an image of yourself you created very very early in childhood. It's built entirely on memory. It's also a rough compromise between your innermost feelings, thoughts, emotions, and desires and the wider external social forces and the thoughts, feelings and other people. Therefore it's developed out of conflict. It doesn't matter if this is 'us' and 'them' or 'you' and 'me'. It's still a memory of conflict reinforced by a belief in separateness and lots and lots of social and mental conditioning.
But see memory is also what you think with because you use it to manifest the focus of your conscious attention. On the one hand your feelings, thoughts and experiences matter because they're all part of your Felt Sense of Immediate Experience out of which you develop perspective. However on the other hand -particularly if you're a child, or young and relatively inexperienced at life - the thoughts, feelings and emotions of others matter particularly when you're going through the necessary process of socialization. You're surrounded by people constantly telling you who and what you are, what to think, how to behave, and giving you often unsolicited suggestions as to how you should live your life.
Self esteem matters, because throughout you want to feel accepted, acknowledged, recognized, loved, respected, and also - just as importantly - to feel included and part of the Bigger Picture. It's all well and good if you get all this throughout your life.
But what if you don't?
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But it also makes words powerful, extremely powerful.
But there's a serious downside to the Ego. It's an image of yourself you created very very early in childhood. It's built entirely on memory. It's also a rough compromise between your innermost feelings, thoughts, emotions, and desires and the wider external social forces and the thoughts, feelings and other people. Therefore it's developed out of conflict. It doesn't matter if this is 'us' and 'them' or 'you' and 'me'. It's still a memory of conflict reinforced by a belief in separateness and lots and lots of social and mental conditioning.
But see memory is also what you think with because you use it to manifest the focus of your conscious attention. On the one hand your feelings, thoughts and experiences matter because they're all part of your Felt Sense of Immediate Experience out of which you develop perspective. However on the other hand -particularly if you're a child, or young and relatively inexperienced at life - the thoughts, feelings and emotions of others matter particularly when you're going through the necessary process of socialization. You're surrounded by people constantly telling you who and what you are, what to think, how to behave, and giving you often unsolicited suggestions as to how you should live your life.
Self esteem matters, because throughout you want to feel accepted, acknowledged, recognized, loved, respected, and also - just as importantly - to feel included and part of the Bigger Picture. It's all well and good if you get all this throughout your life.
But what if you don't?
Continue reading