Assertiveness?
May 28, 2024 10:42:03 GMT
Post by Stella on May 28, 2024 10:42:03 GMT
This is a very common issue out there in society. In fact it's one of the most frequently encountered and common social issues that you will ever experience, and understand that the vast majority of issues you will have to deal with in life all come from other people. Not your health. Not even money. In fact your health issues and financial issues pale in comparison with the issues and crap you have to deal with from other people.
Consider that many of your financial issues start out with a decision someone else has taken. Poverty is a conscious choice people make every day towards their fellow human beings, and quite often much of that is caused by people who are assertive in their beliefs and decisive in their decisions, which also coincidentally seem to jive with some sort of ideology or belief system.
But it's also important to remember that the roots of this behaviour lie in the way that we are socially and mentally conditioned and the social and cultural values we are taught from fairly early in childhood. School teaches us to be competitive rather than cooperative or collaborative and the messaging starts early on that you need to be in control, take charge, always be sure, trust yourself, and do the right thing. Understand that you're going through life chained to an Ego, without which in our society you will very quickly become toast. You don't get given the choice over whether you develop an Ego or not. But it is also true that if you do develop an Ego you're going to be deceived, cheated, you're going to act out of stupidity and you're also going to get hurt.
But the thing is, and my main point here is, that all this social conditioning and Ego development, competitiveness, assertiveness and being decisive all the time has very little to do with the actual reality of your life experience. Furthermore even if you don't see yourself as an idiot or a Karen (to use a modern term) other people will see you this way. You might want to think about how many ways modern social and cultural values actually work against you and why your Ego can end up doing you in.
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Consider that many of your financial issues start out with a decision someone else has taken. Poverty is a conscious choice people make every day towards their fellow human beings, and quite often much of that is caused by people who are assertive in their beliefs and decisive in their decisions, which also coincidentally seem to jive with some sort of ideology or belief system.
But it's also important to remember that the roots of this behaviour lie in the way that we are socially and mentally conditioned and the social and cultural values we are taught from fairly early in childhood. School teaches us to be competitive rather than cooperative or collaborative and the messaging starts early on that you need to be in control, take charge, always be sure, trust yourself, and do the right thing. Understand that you're going through life chained to an Ego, without which in our society you will very quickly become toast. You don't get given the choice over whether you develop an Ego or not. But it is also true that if you do develop an Ego you're going to be deceived, cheated, you're going to act out of stupidity and you're also going to get hurt.
But the thing is, and my main point here is, that all this social conditioning and Ego development, competitiveness, assertiveness and being decisive all the time has very little to do with the actual reality of your life experience. Furthermore even if you don't see yourself as an idiot or a Karen (to use a modern term) other people will see you this way. You might want to think about how many ways modern social and cultural values actually work against you and why your Ego can end up doing you in.
read more